tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post39345803909055952..comments2023-10-10T03:57:29.110-07:00Comments on Razing Ruth: Wedding Bells and SummerRazing Ruthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04854418022850278216noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-39426499203154022032011-11-08T13:44:34.616-08:002011-11-08T13:44:34.616-08:00Congratulations Ruth. I am so sorry the visit with...Congratulations Ruth. I am so sorry the visit with your family wasnt more pleasant, but I am happy you got to meet your new sister and see your Mother.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06253375702367863424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-43529627893751464662011-10-15T21:22:22.804-07:002011-10-15T21:22:22.804-07:00Good luck to you and Harris. Sorry the visit with...Good luck to you and Harris. Sorry the visit with your parents didn't go so well. You are in my thoughts frequently. Take careAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-66329464169256226952011-10-14T13:52:09.640-07:002011-10-14T13:52:09.640-07:00I'm falling out of love with Harris's fami...I'm falling out of love with Harris's family. Your parents did not have the right to meet Harris. <br />They forfeited that right with the way they attempted to force you into an undesirable marriage. They have repeatedly shown that they are incapable of a healthy, meaningful relationship that does not rely on manipulation and control. They are poison. <br /><br />Bottom line is that your parents do not have a right to your life, especially not as an adult. <br />I'm seeing some red flags here, Ruth and as an Xer myself, I want to just put that out there for ya. I learned these things the hard way.<br /><br />Please, for your own sake, do not allow yourself to be pressured into situation that you are reasonably certain are going to end badly. <br />Your father is consistent in one thing: he will be a jerk. You must plan accordingly. <br /><br />Anyways, I'm happy for you. Really glad to see that you had posted!TheAmbivalentEgotisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13106066918719911385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-6994199265802603292011-10-09T21:58:11.563-07:002011-10-09T21:58:11.563-07:00Congratulations, Ruth! I was just thinking of you ...Congratulations, Ruth! I was just thinking of you today and wondering what was going on in your life. It's wonderful that you chose to seek counseling and work through some issues before marriage. I wish I had done that. You are an amazing person and I'm sorry your family can't accept you for who you are but I'm very glad you have something special with Harris.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00572505810690013823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-33264402685663062492011-10-09T07:18:26.432-07:002011-10-09T07:18:26.432-07:00Big congrats on continuing to recover from your ch...Big congrats on continuing to recover from your childhood. Best of luck to you guys. Sorry to hear your family are still obstinately abusive as much as the can be. Bad parenting sadly comes naturally to far to many people including yours.Rob Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06657843334125500080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-39176642455721299642011-10-08T14:33:32.099-07:002011-10-08T14:33:32.099-07:00I am happy for you and proud of you for becoming w...I am happy for you and proud of you for becoming who you are. So sorry that your family is still acting like schmucks. Great to see you back.Ronicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05755869501331386672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-86064779389923642302011-10-07T19:45:53.240-07:002011-10-07T19:45:53.240-07:00Glad to hear the good news. Sorry one person isn&#...Glad to hear the good news. Sorry one person isn't. Glad you're handling it so well. God bless.Daniel "Captain" Kirkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01417084546817010038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-20076042533393833862011-10-07T14:57:15.970-07:002011-10-07T14:57:15.970-07:00Thank you for sharing.
Congratulations to you an...Thank you for sharing. <br /><br />Congratulations to you and Harris. I'm so happy that you are happy with him and he with you. <br /><br />What a wise future MIL you have. She's a good one to have in your corner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-60536518661638498082011-10-07T13:03:48.732-07:002011-10-07T13:03:48.732-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Naomi Elle Schwartzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03182053983568563386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-68719602920920606252011-10-07T12:30:19.619-07:002011-10-07T12:30:19.619-07:00What a long way you've come Ruth! I'm so p...What a long way you've come Ruth! I'm so proud of you! Some day you can be that fabled "strong tower" for the siblings to run to! Harris must be a very special guy and I'm so glad you found him. Your father WILL learn--after he loses most of his children. So sad and so needless.Hopewellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510172065585770709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-54379321919787471502011-10-07T12:18:28.963-07:002011-10-07T12:18:28.963-07:00Good to hear from you again.Good to hear from you again.Rebel Dragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15284801426334561330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-695614041042427642011-10-07T11:41:08.519-07:002011-10-07T11:41:08.519-07:00Sorry, that should have said "on not being in...Sorry, that should have said "on not being intimidate<i>d</i>..."Michael Mockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233321050691782148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-83188644812868291092011-10-07T11:40:13.742-07:002011-10-07T11:40:13.742-07:00Many, many congratulations: on the upcoming weddin...Many, many congratulations: on the upcoming wedding, on getting the counseling beforehand (something I could have benefited from myself, albeit for different reasons), on working to become independent, on not being intimidates...<br /><br />And, the other side of the coin, profound condolences on the inability of your father (and consequently your family) to accept you as you are and be happy for your happiness.Michael Mockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233321050691782148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-90411239496846576242011-10-07T11:38:53.790-07:002011-10-07T11:38:53.790-07:00I'm sure your mom will regret missing your wed...I'm sure your mom will regret missing your wedding and she probably wants to attend, but if she did attend, I can't imagine how their marriage could continue on and that would create a ton of problems for your mom. I'm sorry it isn't working out that way but happy for you that you are happy and beginning a new phase in life.Boysmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02484085135905423794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-70263586248758929202011-10-07T11:22:55.330-07:002011-10-07T11:22:55.330-07:00So good to hear about your life. I am sorry about ...So good to hear about your life. I am sorry about your dad, that he won't open his eyes and see what a blessing you are. He's so entrenched in the voodoo that he's blinded. It's your loss Darth Daddy not Ruth's.<br /><br />I hope your wedding prep goes well and enjoy living with roommates!amulbunny's random thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10621932038345682056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-53008526348459619962011-10-07T11:13:21.639-07:002011-10-07T11:13:21.639-07:00Someday, your mother is going to really, desperate...Someday, your mother is going to really, desperately regret that she missed her oldest(?) daughter's wedding, and that will cause marital problems with her and your father. And she will have brought it all on herself.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409793235676670706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-5660041503736261862011-10-07T10:15:20.183-07:002011-10-07T10:15:20.183-07:00i'm so glad for the update, ruth. you frequent...i'm so glad for the update, ruth. you frequently cross my mind. <br /><br />i've always admired the good head on your shoulders, and i can see that it is serving you well. you are making wise decisions for yourself and your future, and i applaud you. <br /><br />i'm just so sorry about your dad, and your whole family as a result. sigh. i wish things were different for you, but i suppose they aren't, they won't be, and it's only right to move on with your own independence and your own future.contraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533805682780934151noreply@blogger.com