tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post5272606145728483692..comments2023-10-10T03:57:29.110-07:00Comments on Razing Ruth: What's up with those Duggars and other questions?Razing Ruthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04854418022850278216noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-27646700149643241522012-01-02T17:42:04.120-08:002012-01-02T17:42:04.120-08:00I just have to say that you are very insightful.I just have to say that you are very insightful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-30651319231756896332011-12-02T08:04:23.266-08:002011-12-02T08:04:23.266-08:00Cindy,
I feel your confusion.
On one hand, I am ...Cindy,<br /><br />I feel your confusion.<br /><br />On one hand, I am so proud of my kids. On the other, the religious ideas I have believed all my life still shame me. My daughter may be about to graduate college with an A average in a difficult major; she indeed is guaranteed a career as an officer with the USAF- there is no reason to be ashamed of her. And yet it troubles me more than just intellectually that she smokes. And I know she is not a virgin, which is none of my business. But my inner moral police keep calling me a failure. <br /><br />I wish that after walking away from fundamentalism she was a shining example of moral perfection without them- but then I realize my whole idea of moral standards is STILL fundamentalist! Aaargh!<br /><br />I long to b completely free, but don't know if I ever will be. Incidentally I am so proud of my son's moral character- defender of the rights of the oppressed, wanting to serve the good of humanity as a doctor- yet I am freaking out that he wants to get his ears pierced.<br /><br />I am such a mess. Fundamentalism dies hard.shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-30035925435897382792011-11-30T03:11:46.690-08:002011-11-30T03:11:46.690-08:00There...just completed reading every post and comm...There...just completed reading every post and comment on the blog from the beginning. Such a journey these two years have been for you, Ruth. As you begin this new chapter of your life, I don't doubt that there will be fewer if any posts now that you have a best friend and partner to discuss and dissect the wounds of the past. I used to do a lot of blogging (merely of emotional states without context since I didn't yet have the perspective to realize that the reason I was in such pain was because I had been victimized) in my college days when I was relatively alone and isolated after walking away from my twisted upbringing. Now that I have close friends and a partner who understands my past, and I have healed so many of the wounds that were inflicted by that past, the need to write about it has been far less. However, reading your story has planted a seed in my mind that perhaps I would like to write down my own story too. Thankfully it will be from a place of peace, rather than the dark anger and pain of where I once was when I walked away--or should I say "ran screaming"--from my childhood abuse. Reading your story and how you have processed these last several years has been very healing and validating for me. Perhaps my story can help others too. <br /><br />Thank you so much. I wish you great joy.Kendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11236056025996019354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-49154229921478480462011-11-21T15:09:09.976-08:002011-11-21T15:09:09.976-08:00Interesting post. On their show the Duggars have p...Interesting post. On their show the Duggars have paraded a lot of successful ATI folks, as well as the Bates, I figured it was a sort of cattle call for those needing to court but live a decent lifestyle.....Hopewellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510172065585770709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-62982194878307434222011-11-16T18:50:35.052-08:002011-11-16T18:50:35.052-08:00http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXA7GA9yntchttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXA7GA9yntcKoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082651353518590602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-51461832057393372262011-11-12T21:05:20.858-08:002011-11-12T21:05:20.858-08:00I love your blog Ruth. The way I see it, the Dugga...I love your blog Ruth. The way I see it, the Duggars are painting the entire Gothard/ATI lifestyle with a pretty brush and never revealing the abusive truth behind it. To me they are nothing to be celebrated or emulated. I really wish that they would get off of TV and stop trying to "encourage" others.Sixpence Never the Richerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02620850894536020334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-41702087068088740962011-11-11T19:32:27.021-08:002011-11-11T19:32:27.021-08:00I am totally creeped out by Jim Bob's hair.I am totally creeped out by Jim Bob's hair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-12669817318580891012011-11-11T17:25:53.714-08:002011-11-11T17:25:53.714-08:00I think the Duggars have made their own brand to m...I think the Duggars have made their own brand to make it more appealing. I also believe Jim Bob is a wanna be cult leader but he is too loud and public. Many think the Duggars would have the same amount of kids if there were no show. I agree somewhat they might not have them for money but they sure like the attention it gets them. DUggar fans remind me of Abner Kravitz from bewitched. They never see anything going on or want to see it .roddmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09389826007718895253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-37260043014210335902011-11-11T12:06:45.847-08:002011-11-11T12:06:45.847-08:00Hi Ruth!
I just started reading a couple of day...Hi Ruth! <br /><br />I just started reading a couple of days ago - first: Congrats on your engagement! I'm so glad you've found a loving man in Harris to be your partner in life's adventures. I've been married to my best friend for 3 years and it has brought me immeasurable happiness. I wish the same for you! <br /><br />I was home schooled in a loving conservative environment - and your blog has served as a reminder of how blessed I was to have a loving and compassionate Daddy. I am sorry your relationship with your Dad is so strained. I hope your relationship with Harris continues the healing process and I pray that you will continue to experience the love of God as your heavenly father - not as the overbearing, controlling, judge you experienced during your childhood, but the Father of lights who guides, provides and delights in you as his cherished princess.<br /><br />*hugs*<br />-Muddled MuseMuddled Musehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07876688315527257773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-91051064837722753922011-11-11T11:14:13.654-08:002011-11-11T11:14:13.654-08:00I am sooooo glad you are exposing this for what yo...I am sooooo glad you are exposing this for what you know it to be. It frustrates me to no end to read the simple-minded, benighted praises of young, idealistic mothers for Michelle Duggar. <br /><br />Her syrupy sweetness draws them like flies to honey and thus, they buy the whole package willfully oblivious of the agenda behind it all. <br /><br />Yours is a vital voice of experience, reality, reason and just good ol' common sense in this age where giddy glamorization and idolization of public figures completely trumps any concern for the truth.<br /><br />I am one who needs this validation that my reluctance to incorporate the Gothard-derived principles was actually an accurate intuition even when the Gothard families I have known seemed to be enjoying the fruits of their beliefs and labors via their children while mine are still struggling to overcome the damage resulting from the amount and brand of kool-aid' we drank. <br /><br />While the preachers we followed were not 'ATI/Gothard' promoters (too jealous of his success) they still extracted the same ideologies from the Bible and imposed them on us. The ultimate damage is immeasurable. But enough families, like the Duggars, seem to pull it off that they will never accept the fallacies. Those of us who bailed are judged disgruntled failures. This is why I still need the validation from the children of those beliefs.<br /><br />I deeply appreciate and admire your courage and sacrifice.<br /><br />Cindy@ Baptist Taliban MemoirsCindy Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17942963391717614449noreply@blogger.com