tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post6172985075732137475..comments2023-10-10T03:57:29.110-07:00Comments on Razing Ruth: It's A GirlRazing Ruthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04854418022850278216noreply@blogger.comBlogger140125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-75651701672112465092012-04-02T18:28:26.483-07:002012-04-02T18:28:26.483-07:00Rachel, you and your sister are strong, brave wome...Rachel, you and your sister are strong, brave women and I admire you both.<br /><br />I'm not an adoption fan, but Rachel weighed her options and made the best decision herself. To be honest I'm relieved that Darth Daddy or Isaac can never get their hands on her. <br /><br />I'm curious, but it sounded as if the couple are the opposite of Gothard? Part of me imagines Ellie growing up with a very crunchy, hippy family lol.Sticky Fingershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08229811425705253832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-34805271362237461372012-04-02T11:37:17.295-07:002012-04-02T11:37:17.295-07:00While I'm tired of the adoption kool-aide too....While I'm tired of the adoption kool-aide too...and was adopted by the "perfect" evangelical couple who gave me a wonderful life but also a lot of therepy bills as an adult, I also believe adoption can be a great thing. In this case I hope it turns out well. But can we stop the anti-choice crap? As an adoptee I'm damn tired of hearing "Well aren't you glad you weren't murdered?" from anti-choicers. If I were aborted I wouldn't be here to care. As it is, I wish my mom had at least had a choice--but she didn't, not even in my conception, and surely not with the adoption.<br /><br />Adoption can be a great thing, it can also hurt. Same thing with parenting. And the same thing with abortion. Abortion would be my choice, were I to become pregnant today. My husband agrees. And all three choices (when actually a choice made by the woman) should be respected, just like we should respect Rachel with her choice right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-23072358764828903662012-03-31T17:31:08.727-07:002012-03-31T17:31:08.727-07:00I am sure anonymous is an adoptee with some issues...I am sure anonymous is an adoptee with some issues - fortunately most don't. <br /><br />Ella will grow up knowing that she was a wanted child, not only by her parents but by the precious girl who gave her life and her aunt who is strong and brave.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06364546048806887494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-2057211724327733922012-03-30T11:23:07.674-07:002012-03-30T11:23:07.674-07:00stitchinguptheseams, I'm very sorry to hear yo...stitchinguptheseams, I'm very sorry to hear your (entirely believable to me) story. I don't know if this is appropriate for your circumstances but there's a donation website called modestneeds.org (https://www.modestneeds.org/index.asp) that does its best to provide "emergency bridge grants" to people who are working but might otherwise go under from unexpected gas bills, car repairs, and medical emergencies. <br /><br />BB.girlwindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984026101544562776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-59796107666665067632012-03-30T07:05:58.048-07:002012-03-30T07:05:58.048-07:00I blog anonymously because I'm working through...I blog anonymously because I'm working through issues that I can't work through with my family and mentors from my previous life virtually hanging over my shoulder and smacking me every time I ask a question or voice something that's not considered appropriate. And also, shit happens. For example, my life since getting married in 2009 through today:<br /><br />My husband lost his job a month into our marriage, so I had to find a job as a full-time temp. We couldn't pay rent, so his parents chipped in. My menstrual cycle went nuts - I would not bleed one month, then bleed for up to 4 months without stopping. We didn't have the money for me to see a doctor, so I just dealt with it. A couple months later, my husband found a part-time job. Then we had The Blizzard From Hell. We couldn't leave the apartment for a week, which meant we lost a week's pay each. My car broke down the first day I was able to go back to work, totaling $1,300 of repairs that my parents generously paid for because we were dead broke living from paycheck to paycheck. Finally, I got hired as a permanent employee at my job, which was great but meant that I lost the insurance I had with the temp agency just in time for me to get REALLY sick and miss 3 days of work with a 105 fever complete with hallucinations. I almost lost my job. A month or so later, my husband lost his job the week before we were moving an hour away.<br /><br />We're now in the summer of 2010 (that's right - all of the above has happened in a 6-month time period! Unbelievable?). Right after we moved, my mother-in-law was hospitalized with a 60lb tumor that had to be removed - life-threatening surgery. We dropped everything and flew to be with them, costing us over $1k for plane tickets and food, and I did not get reimbursed for time missed because my boss didn't deem it an emergency. So we lost a week's pay and all of that money, meaning we had to overdraft drastically and barely scrape by. We didn't get out of the hole until the fall, when my husband got a job with an electric company that fired him two weeks later because they didn't like him. I'd gone to the doctor when I thought we'd have the money to pay to have tests run to see what was wrong with me. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome and told I may never have children at the end of 2010.<br /><br />In early 2011, my grandfather dropped dead unexpectedly. Then my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in his liver - inoperable, though slow-growing. Death is inevitable, but may not happen for 8-12 years. But he's still dying. At this point, my husband jobless and me working 2 hours from my parents, we both started frantically looking for work close to them so we could be with them when things start getting worse. For a few months, the only drama we deal with is marital strife and my ever-increasing PTSD episodes resulting from being sexually assaulted at 18. Ha. The ONLY drama.<br /><br />In the early fall of 2011, I finally found a job 10 minutes from my parents...which means I had to drive 2 hours there and 2 hours back whenever I worked in the office. My husband found a job that required lots of travel and permits. Since we'd been living on my income alone, at this point we were burnt out and so over-drawn on our bank account that we couldn't pay bills, buy gas, or eat. So I broke down and asked for money on my blog, while he called his parents and asked them to wire money. We barely scraped by. Then, as we got stable, we had an unexpected $2.5k car repair bills for both cars, plunging us into the hole again. My parents bailed us out that time. Then my husband's grandfather died, and we flew across the country for his funeral. A couple of months later, we found a duplex near my parents and moved. And here we are.<br /><br />All of that. ALL of that. In about the same time period as Ruth's so-called "unlikely" events in her life. Shit happens, people. And sometimes it happens in WAVES. If you find it unbelievable, then I envy your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-42842614033268221322012-03-29T22:02:10.684-07:002012-03-29T22:02:10.684-07:00She just refuses to give up and shut up.....
Soun...She just refuses to give up and shut up.....<br /><br />Sounds IFB and ATI to me....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-20090046999289572822012-03-29T21:59:33.099-07:002012-03-29T21:59:33.099-07:00No one here has to justify to you what we choose t...No one here has to justify to you what we choose to do or not do. You are not the voice of our conscience here and your role is not to warn anyone about anything. If that were your sole purpose, great, we've been warned and your warning is duly noted. <br /><br />Now, move along.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-59102502587001825622012-03-29T21:51:10.433-07:002012-03-29T21:51:10.433-07:00Gasp...it is all a conspiracy!
Could you be more ...Gasp...it is all a conspiracy!<br /><br />Could you be more transparent?<br /><br />All you've pointed out is that you don't know Ruth's identity in a story that is unfolding as Ruth sees fit. That she is not meeting your timeline for info is not inconsistent. It is Ruth's prerogative to share what she will as SHE chooses. You have NO say. Do try to remember that this isn't your blog.<br /><br />Essentially, we think you are a bully and we do not like or respect you. We think we can trust our own judgement as to the authenticity of Ruth's story. We are very smart, after all.<br /><br />But thanks ever so much for your concern.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-66897110077525345712012-03-29T21:03:07.338-07:002012-03-29T21:03:07.338-07:00Free Jinger has questioned Ruth for three years an...Free Jinger has questioned Ruth for three years and every time, Ruth has explained exactly what you're asking for. She has contacted trusted people and shared enough information to be vested. Ruth has no obligation to you, me, or any reader. She has an obligation to protect herself from whatever threats she perceives. Just because you're not her best buddy or confidant doesn't make her a liar. <br /><br />Ruth, you need to turn off anonymous comments.One of the hivenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-45806156176334479132012-03-29T21:02:29.687-07:002012-03-29T21:02:29.687-07:00K. You have yet to address the inconsistencies th...K. You have yet to address the inconsistencies that I pointed out. Instead you have resorted to name calling, sarcasm, verbosity, and a shift of focus to blogs and tip jars. I have read every post of this blog...some more than once. I am aware of the tip jar's use as a part of blogs, but that does not negate the hints/requests for gifts, gift cards, and swag bucks. Pulling the tip jar temporarily is an excellent way to build credibility and trust, Sigmund. What compelled me to post was an earlier post in which the writer lamented being unable to contribute more to the Disney World fund due to difficult times. She or he had already made a contribution. This is about principles. What is mean is taking advantage of the good will of others if that is what is happening here. If your BS/arm chair psychologist detector is on, then I suggest that you use it to reconsider this blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-77436519366187170642012-03-29T20:56:22.479-07:002012-03-29T20:56:22.479-07:00Let me get this straight... Ruth is a liar unless ...Let me get this straight... Ruth is a liar unless she fully discloses her identity. I occasionally blog under a pseudonym and closely guard my identity. Everything I put on my blog is true, yet by this standard, but unless I use my full name, apparently I must be a liar. Why do I blog under a pseudonym? I do not have family concerns like Ruth. I do have a pretty good career in a well regarded field. I routinely turn down interviews by newspapers and magazines on a monthly basis. My field has nothing to do with this blog, but I don't talk to press. The fact I choose to not splash my views on my field all over doesn't make me a liar, but just a person who doesn't particularly like publicity.<br />Ruth has a right to disclose or withhold whatever she wants. She is an adult and that is her perogative. If she has a tip jar, that's her business as well. No one is making you contribute. However, accusations are only that, accusations. You can call Ruth whatever you want... it doesn't make it true and it doesn't make her a liar either. It just makes you loud. and it shouldn't force Ruth into disclosing anything she prefers to keep private. I'm an adult with a doctorate. I think I'm old enough and smart enough to decide for myself without the schoolyard bully throwing around taunts to see what sticks.JTNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-73028656029022511382012-03-29T20:24:00.729-07:002012-03-29T20:24:00.729-07:00No Boobala...not a threat...just a friendly warnin...No Boobala...not a threat...just a friendly warning that armchair psychologists are reading...and the BS detectors are on. <br /><br />Your refusal to read the entire blog is a huge red flag. Clearly, you are not here to discern the veracity of Ruth's story. You are here to discredit/harm Ruth, for reasons we have yet to suss out. That you are utterly ignorant of the purpose of the Tip Jar on blogs in general suggest that this is all about mean-spirited trolling, and not about any real concern for us'n nimrods offering up few bucks for a fascinating glimpse into religious misogyny.<br /><br />Soooo...since Ruth has already stated that her story is not fictional, and since she is not requesting money and since she had taken the Tip Jar down for many months (a thing you would know if you actually read the blog)...your fears about authenticity should be assuaged. Feel better now, Punkin?<br /><br />A) Paypal is safe.<br />B) Tip Jars are common practice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-26935171462421942042012-03-29T19:54:25.200-07:002012-03-29T19:54:25.200-07:00Why be very careful? Is that some kind of veiled ...Why be very careful? Is that some kind of veiled threat? She has stated many times that her family knows of her blog and that many others do as well. How long does Ruth have to hide if all of this is authentic? Authenticity would probably best be achieved by not asking for money or by stating that the story is fictional or somewhat fictional if it is. Let me state it for you simply... asking for money on false pretenses is the wrong thing to do. End of story. My point is simply that before you go hosting online baby showers and financing Disney World trips, think about what you would tell your kid if she or he asked for your credit card to donate to a cause on the internet without knowing to whom the money was being donated to. And actually I am quite a good Samaritan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-13947932307842728392012-03-29T19:21:01.763-07:002012-03-29T19:21:01.763-07:00Well well said!! Congratulations Rachel and Ruth a...Well well said!! Congratulations Rachel and Ruth and baby Ella.Kris O.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-29558707284326818332012-03-29T19:14:43.781-07:002012-03-29T19:14:43.781-07:00Tee Hee...so this is about discrediting Ruth becau...Tee Hee...so this is about discrediting Ruth because you are oh so concerned that good people are being taken advantage of...my, aren't you the good samaritan!<br /><br />Okay. So short of Ruth "outing" herself and her family...what would convince you of "authenticity?"<br /><br />Be very careful here...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-84039656801832618992012-03-29T18:56:24.283-07:002012-03-29T18:56:24.283-07:00It turns out that every business has a dirty under...It turns out that every business has a dirty underbelly. Every.single.one. <br />The people who work in adoption are also in business and dirty stuff happens. However, this is NOT as story of a young woman who has been "forced" to give up her baby for adoption. This is a story of a young woman who thought about her situation and made a decision. She SOUGHT OUT resources to plan for an adoption of her child. Rachel's Choice. Her decsion. That is what CHOICE is about.<br />Will she have regrets? I would guess that any woman, when faced with such choices, will sometimes feel regret or sadness. Overall, from the way this situation has played out, Rachel will be able to integrate this decision into her life knowing it was the best choice for her and for Ella.<br />Screeching about the seamy side of the adoption industry is not appropriate right now. It is simply hurtful.Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11288926937862000403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-29134725462291024672012-03-29T18:55:27.704-07:002012-03-29T18:55:27.704-07:00If it's fictional, say so. Those at Free Jing...If it's fictional, say so. Those at Free Jinger posture as being so critically minded, but buy into this story hook, line, and sinker. It's a crying shame. Not every reader of this blog understands that it might be fiction. Read their passionate, heart felt posts. If it is fiction, Ruth has an obligation to say so as that is the ethical thing to do. Otherwise, it is a con job. Not drinking the Kool-Aid does make one a troll. Peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-21723410316154809472012-03-29T18:48:43.657-07:002012-03-29T18:48:43.657-07:00I did above. Don't hold your breath while you...I did above. Don't hold your breath while you wait for the book baby doll. I started reading this blog when I heard about it on anti-Duggar blogs. The Duggars make me angry. I have always seen inconsistencies in the various story lines of this blog, but I kept it to myself. I always wondered about the whole tip jar/frequent injuries/hints for gifts and money, but I thought, hey, I will give her the benefit of the doubt. But then I started to see the pattern, and it angered me, especially when it started to become more blatant. I see an attempt to gain the trust of well meaning people with a very tragic story that contains particles of truth and then to push for larger gifts. Read from beginning to end with a critical thinking perspective, and you will wonder about the pattern that emerges.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-86131081444115892312012-03-29T18:45:35.520-07:002012-03-29T18:45:35.520-07:00Honestly Troll, we are all grown ups here. We do n...Honestly Troll, we are all grown ups here. We do not need your wagging finger to tell us not to use paypal to do a nice thing for another person. There has been enough information on this blog to give the majority of us a comfortable sense of Ruth's story being genuine. It has been brought up in the past that even if Ruth is writing fiction, she is doing so for free and we are reading it. If we all throw a few bucks her way to lavish on herself and her sister, then so be it. Take your wagging finger and stick it where the sun doesn't shine.Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11288926937862000403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-48433125139649258832012-03-29T18:40:17.518-07:002012-03-29T18:40:17.518-07:00Snerk.
We have an idea. Go register over at FJ im...Snerk.<br /><br />We have an idea. Go register over at FJ immediately, and post your "concerns" there.<br /><br />Just give us time to brew some coffee.<br /><br />Wait for it...wait for it...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-79272975317819161972012-03-29T18:37:23.867-07:002012-03-29T18:37:23.867-07:00We're waiting for the book, Snookums.
So why ...We're waiting for the book, Snookums.<br /><br />So why are you here? Can you answer that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-57568200955369443542012-03-29T18:37:10.588-07:002012-03-29T18:37:10.588-07:00Free Jinger is a website started by Duggar anti-fa...Free Jinger is a website started by Duggar anti-fans who hope that Jinger Duggar will one day get out of the patriarchal, quiverful Duggar family for a life much like Ruth's. I discovered this blog because Ruth used to post there. I despise the ATI/Gothard movement, but I also dislike good people being taken advantage of and I have doubts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-38985085592249357262012-03-29T18:32:52.622-07:002012-03-29T18:32:52.622-07:00That's the best you can come up with as you ha...That's the best you can come up with as you have bought into this hook, line, and sinker. The fact that I got tired of looking through her posts does not negate the inconsistency that I pointed out or the monthly hints for gifts. Sorry, but unless you provide contrary evidence, you need to become more vigilant. Ruth leaves home at eighteen for the second time to live with family for a year, she then attends community college at some point, but what else happens during those six to eight years before she attends what is presumably a university? Can you answer that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-41875589891167353752012-03-29T18:30:53.312-07:002012-03-29T18:30:53.312-07:00Free Ginger?Free Ginger?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-75030685151330941092012-03-29T18:24:52.921-07:002012-03-29T18:24:52.921-07:00I have read it, and it is often fake sounding. I&...I have read it, and it is often fake sounding. I'm not the only one who has felt this way. You all enjoy the entertainment aspect of this Free Ginger fantasy or she really pulls on your heart strings,which is a shame. You ask me to do my own research as you have no corroborating evidence at all. If you did, you would not resort to such a juvenile response dear. Sorry but Ruth upped the ante when she started to increase her gifts' price tags. She claims to remain anonymous to protect the identity of her family, but then she also claims that various ATI members already know who she is. Does not add up...at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com