tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post6832474662689055594..comments2023-10-10T03:57:29.110-07:00Comments on Razing Ruth: the OscarsRazing Ruthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04854418022850278216noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-77355869335761287202012-02-26T01:04:46.086-08:002012-02-26T01:04:46.086-08:00Edit... that last movie is actually titled "T...Edit... that last movie is actually titled "The Way Back."A Common Destinynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-59618133850932381782012-02-26T01:03:05.008-08:002012-02-26T01:03:05.008-08:00Just getting into your blog, so not sure if you...Just getting into your blog, so not sure if you'll see this comment, but I had to say... I get you on this! <br /><br />I didn't grow up anything like QF, but I did grow up in a conservative Christian family with no TV. We rented a TV every four years to watch the Olympics and were allowed a few "good" movies at those times. Some children's movies and shows, such as Pocahontas, were scorned by my mother as "spiritualistic" and therefore not suitable for our viewing, but somehow we managed to watch The Little Mermaid. Also, when I was quite young, my mother decided that the celebrations associated with Easter and Halloween were pagan, and so all Easter-egg hunts, trick-or-treating and costume parties were banned.<br /><br />Anyway, I totally understand being out-of-touch with popular culture. It wasn't until college that I started knowing who actors and actresses were and catching up on movies and TV shows everyone else had seen 1,000 times. Now, I can actually handle small talk about the Oscars! It's really not all as important as I thought it was as a child/teenager... but it sure feels nice not to feel like a total weirdo! (And I do still love Sound of Music.)<br /><br />Some of my favorite movies:<br /><br />Lord of the Rings (But read the books, including The Hobbit, first!)<br />Gone With the Wind (Definitely a product of its time in views of black people and women, but Scarlett is in her own way a feminist!)<br />Shawshank Redemption<br />Mulan<br />The Game (starring Michael Douglas)<br />Out of Africa<br />Schindler's List<br />One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest<br />Gattaca<br />Geisha<br />The Way Home<br /><br />I'm beginning to see a theme here :) Most of these movies feature strong female characters and/or characters who gain freedom against overwhelming odds. I think you'll like them.A Common Destinynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-57972190140583847652010-05-25T21:28:54.881-07:002010-05-25T21:28:54.881-07:00Darth Daddy does not even know how to spell grieve...Darth Daddy does not even know how to spell grieve....he spelled it greeves....hello.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-24151158083780614992010-03-15T05:07:09.679-07:002010-03-15T05:07:09.679-07:00Darth Vater, how i wish you would pray this prayer...Darth Vater, how i wish you would pray this prayer for your daughter:<br /><br />"Good women, as one who represents the male population to you, i confess our sin as a gender against you. We have not honoured you in many ways. We have hated the good of the feminine and prefered the good of the masculine. We have devalued you and believed the lie that to be a man is better and that the feminine is less than the masculine. Forgive our deception, O God. We accept the truth that as women, your daughters also bear your image, and that you esteem feminine ways of being and knowing as highly as You esteem the masculine. Women, we confess our tendency to downplay your significance and to exert our own power in ways that are unjust to you. We confess devaluing your through sexual sin and assault, through viewing you as an object or chattel, through projecting blame for our own weakness onto you, through doubting you and suspecting you when in truth we simply didn't understand you. We beseech your forgiveness also for the ways we have suppressed the good of the feminine in you and exerted authority and power over you in a way that subdued your personal power, autonomy and unique personhood. Forgive us for the way we have veiled the beauty of your womanhood in you. As God continues to reveal our misogyny and command our repentance, we ask that the grace we seek in our sin would be grace that you might extend to us as well."<br /><br />The men of our church prayed this for the women, then gave specific examples of acts of misogny against women. Then the women prayed a prayer for the men as well. it is the only time in my life i ever saw misogny identified as a SIN in the church. It was incredibly healing and liberating. For both genders, for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-50560799046543154452010-03-15T04:53:18.676-07:002010-03-15T04:53:18.676-07:00" ... to a once holy daughter of God."
..." ... to a once holy daughter of God."<br /><br />Holy. Hmmm. Interesting choice of words. And what made her 'holy'? And, according to you, what makes her 'unholy' or 'less holy' now?<br /><br />If you think the external trappings of a rigid lifestyle, proscribed gender roles, being reserved and subdued and having her spirit broken so that she us utterly subordinate to you and other patriarchal bullies is 'holy', if you think long skirts, long hair, homeshooling and homebirthing makes her more holy than someone who doesn't, then you are dumping extreme legalism on your daughter, and blocking her way to experience true grace and true faith in the finished work of the cross. There is nothing, nothing, nothing but the shed blodd of Jesus, his finished work of undeserved mercy and grace that ever made Ruth (or I, or you) holy and nothing but the blood ever will. What you imply is a toxic, Pharisaical counterfeit.<br /><br />Don't you even yearn to surrender at the cross, as an undeserving sinner who has been led astray by a toxic, dysfunctional religious counterfeit, and just let the precious blood of Jesus wash over you, and let His love drive away all your fears, even though you know you don't deserve it, never will and never can?<br /><br />If you did, the mercy and grace and love you'd receive would flood your heart and overflow to your precious daughter.<br /><br />This is my prayer for you. I have seen Pharisees and bullies like you and I have seen the appalling damage that evil and erroneous doctrine has done.<br /><br />But the cross of Jesus, his amazing grace, the way this utter miracle defeats the dynamics of legalism and provides for equality, justice, healing .... that has more power.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-84507608165574365992010-03-11T02:37:04.163-08:002010-03-11T02:37:04.163-08:00Finding Nemo!!!!!!Finding Nemo!!!!!!EDavishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060423952264721851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-19349071352365089262010-03-10T11:39:50.111-08:002010-03-10T11:39:50.111-08:00PS: Another reason to watch Casablanca is that it ...PS: Another reason to watch Casablanca is that it has a ridiculous amount of commonly quoted lines, "We'll always have Paris," "Play it again, Sam," "This looks like the beginning of the beautiful friendship," and "Of all the gin joins in all the world she walks into mine." To name but a few. Definitely required watching to get many pop culture references.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-59286606950965293702010-03-10T11:37:13.265-08:002010-03-10T11:37:13.265-08:00Hmm...good movies, good movies.
Stardust is great...Hmm...good movies, good movies.<br /><br />Stardust is great. Awesome, funny, romantic...and probably in the 75% bin at Target (Yay!). A Room With a View is also a MUST! It contains one of the best kisses in film, period. <br /><br />And, I bet your college has a collection of classics in the library. From there you should totallly borrow Casablanca, Christmas in Connecticut, Bringing Up Baby, and Some Like It Hot (to name but a few!!). I highly recommend them all, and...with the exception of Casablanca...they're all light, happy fare (but Casablanca is still amazing, so watch it anyway!).<br /><br />-EdithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-60803482813950694062010-03-09T21:00:51.282-08:002010-03-09T21:00:51.282-08:00When The popular comment layout is common, so it i...When The popular comment layout is common, so it is easily recognized scanning to post a comment. If the comment section is in a different format, then I am going to spend more time trying to decipher what everything means.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.onlineuniversalwork.com" rel="nofollow">degree home</a>angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10506776941087544270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-52903507863589294482010-03-09T19:44:59.620-08:002010-03-09T19:44:59.620-08:00Has Ruth said that this was her dad? All of Ruth&#...Has Ruth said that this was her dad? All of Ruth's posts sound intelligent and well written so I find it difficult to believe that her father's writing level would be this drastically different then hers.debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520916893372615911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-74236335209663813172010-03-09T13:59:16.646-08:002010-03-09T13:59:16.646-08:00If he is really Ruth's Dad, I feel so sorry fo...If he is really Ruth's Dad, I feel so sorry for him when he has to face the wrath of God for thinking he knows God so well he can speak for God.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10101692710457925824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-36087561486162577022010-03-09T12:04:08.707-08:002010-03-09T12:04:08.707-08:00Agreed! I think NPDs are attracted to fundamentali...Agreed! I think NPDs are attracted to fundamentalist religion because it gives them even more *unique* status as Gawd's annointed, and they get to play god over their families with the church's approval. Look good and dominate at all the same time!<br /><br />But the religion is extra: NPD is the problem.shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-54440591849044713462010-03-09T11:59:14.115-08:002010-03-09T11:59:14.115-08:00Ruth, if it were logistically possible, I would th...Ruth, if it were logistically possible, I would think your father and mine were really the same man living a double life as a Gothardite and a hedonistic unbeliever. (Although my father calls himself a Christian, I think what he really means is 'normal American' as Christ is pretty irrelevant to his life).<br /><br />Someone asked if someone as unhinged as the anonymous poster could really be Ruth's dad. Absolutely. I've seen this kind of brain damage in my own father, and as much as it looks like a parody, he's probably totally in earnest.<br /><br />Religion is not this guy's problem - it's his crutch, his excuse. I say this because my father is his exact duplicate without the religion. The common denominator is an abusive, narcissistic personality. It's amazing how when you've heard one of them speak, you recognize the rest of them immediately.Sierra from NLQnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-21662987981480104822010-03-09T11:38:21.821-08:002010-03-09T11:38:21.821-08:00Here's how loving parents deal with shopliftin...Here's how loving parents deal with shoplifting, or at least I like to think of myself as loving- LOL!<br /><br />Find teen son shoplifting, make him dump everything out of his pockets at the store. Leave immediately. Go home. Freak out! (A better person would leave that part out but I am who I am.) Point out that you could get arrested! Ruin your chances of med school! Be totally embarrassed and feel like a loser if your friends/neighbors/relatives employer found out! Then take deep breaths, hug your teen and say, "I love you so much. I don't want to see you get hurt. I would've given you the $$ if you needed it." <br /><br />Next, find out what's really eating at your teen (if possible). Fix it. If it can't be fixed, just talking about it helps. Like if your mom had ever admitted what a control freak your dad was and prayed with you to be healed from his abuses. Even if she wasn't ready to leave herself, just talking helps a lot sometimes.<br /><br />Finally, good home school mom that I am, I found a free course online on shoplifting prevention. Teen is grounded from stores until the course is finished. Mom and Dad both make more effort to love teen and build him up. Teen finishes course. All is forgotten.<br /><br />Oh yeah, somewhere in there (many times) we all prayed together, each of together in humility admitting our own faults and praying for one another. But we do that anyway.<br /><br />The huge difference between my family and Ruth's is that these parents walk in real humility. We know we are as screwed up as the next person, and don't put on airs that we are perfect in any way. Plus I am pretty sure we have way more fun than Ruth's parents. LOL<br /><br />Ruth, hugs and love to you! I hope you find a life of freedom, joy, support, friendship, laughter and accomplishment! You deserve it, precious one.shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-50195344739547142452010-03-09T07:42:06.622-08:002010-03-09T07:42:06.622-08:00Ruth,
I am so sorry that your fathers view of Chri...Ruth,<br />I am so sorry that your fathers view of Christ is so off. It seems like so many put their own ideas in where it should be what the Bible says. It's such a personality thing. Even Paul wrote to the church and told them to straighten up, I wonder what he would do now days. I have seen ladies who say they are pagan christian even. That makes no sense. How can a person make up their own religion? <br /><br /> If your god doesnt do this or that or is all love than you have broken the first commandment. Thou shalt have no other god's befor me. Or if like your dad god never forgives and only perfect can get to heaven. we are all doomed, for all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.<br /><br />I pray that God shows His face to you and you can have a relationship with Him like He desires for you.debbieohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16591676862695285439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-51021646654795670862010-03-09T07:35:05.097-08:002010-03-09T07:35:05.097-08:00"You' find no forgiveness for you are a g...<i>"You' find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature."<br />These are both judgmental statements. You don't know if God will grant her forgiveness or not, that is up to Him. It is also judgmental to call her a "godless creature."</i><br /><br />It's also deliciously nonsensical.<br /><br />Try to understand that to an actual unbeliever, being called 'godless' is like being called 'elfless'. To an atheist everyone is godless because there just aren't any gods to be had- it's just that not everyone has come to grips with it yet.<br /><br />To a believer one would think it would be equally absurd. If God exists and is omnipresent then nobody can be said to be without Him. You could be 'ungodly' but hardly 'godless'.DaveLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-6247670118377968402010-03-09T06:46:35.427-08:002010-03-09T06:46:35.427-08:00Speaking of Beauty and the Beast...if you ever hav...Speaking of Beauty and the Beast...if you ever have the chance to see it on stage...DO IT! Disney spares no expense and the show is fantastic.sj3339stahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06526608027958201084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-64159294879288689212010-03-09T05:28:42.737-08:002010-03-09T05:28:42.737-08:00OMgoodness that link to the book was absolutely si...OMgoodness that link to the book was absolutely sick! (as in hilarious!) rofl!!!!<br /><br />Beauty and the Beast by Disney, Ruth. That film is amazing, it appeals to the book-lover in all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-38155724219707501902010-03-09T00:11:24.692-08:002010-03-09T00:11:24.692-08:00As for music, what about Queen? Even better? Watch...As for music, what about Queen? Even better? Watch some of the concerts. I have Live at Wembly Stadium. Freddie Mercury was a great showman and the performances are all about the music and experience, not like the pop performances are today, which are all about "ooh, pretty! explosions! sparkly!"<br /><br />You must see/hear Queen. They are the bomb, yo. :)Alicianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-68924516149529396982010-03-08T21:09:38.431-08:002010-03-08T21:09:38.431-08:00When I was 4 or 5 I stole gum from the supermarket...When I was 4 or 5 I stole gum from the supermarket.....I really wanted it and my mom found out that night when she found it.<br /><br />Got in trouble, got the no-stealing lecture, and for some reason I still have part of that gum tucked away in my childhood jewelery box...<br /><br />My brother once ate some stuff in a super market, my dad gave him a quarter and told him to go to the manager, give him the quarter and apologize for stealing food.<br /><br />Neither of us have done that since....I think it's a lesson we all learn. <br /><br />That aside, I'm glad you got to enjoy your first Oscars. It's a shame they didn't do the best song performances this year, it's one of my favorite parts.<br /><br />I'm curious, were you able to watch the Olympics growing up?Sardonicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06692317832826389925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-39410198858539237062010-03-08T20:38:37.593-08:002010-03-08T20:38:37.593-08:00Had to re-comment... I just read your Dad's po...Had to re-comment... I just read your Dad's post.<br /><br />Ruth, I hope you find the love, mercy and GRACE that God gives us. I hear so much condemnation and SHAME in your father's words... I hope you realize that Jesus wasn't like that. In fact, He told Mary of Magdalene "Your sins are FORGIVEN... go and sin no more". Jesus said things like "Whoever is without sin may cast the first stone" and "Whatsoever you've done to the least of these you've done to Me".<br /><br />Your dad has ovbiously never read those words nor does he worship the same loving, gentle, KIND Jesus that I do. If he did, his post wouldn't have been written.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-27239387336795784432010-03-08T20:35:44.480-08:002010-03-08T20:35:44.480-08:00This time my password was "barworis." Li...This time my password was "barworis." Like "bar worries," ha ha I think that is funny!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293754839064886803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-42983293809130828982010-03-08T20:34:31.413-08:002010-03-08T20:34:31.413-08:00Ok, follwer should be follower, "The reason I...Ok, follwer should be follower, "The reason I ask because," should be, "The reason I ask is because," and there should be know comma after "known,"Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293754839064886803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-45570338561228329402010-03-08T20:23:33.875-08:002010-03-08T20:23:33.875-08:00Ruth, I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I wa...Ruth, I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I was just wondering if before your dad became a "christian" or BG follwer, was he a drug user? The reason I ask because many ex drug users I've known, have become hyper legalistic after conversion, AND they often have permanent damage which can affect their abilities in grammar, math and other subjects.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293754839064886803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2201165796329163117.post-73767064371959771872010-03-08T20:23:33.876-08:002010-03-08T20:23:33.876-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293754839064886803noreply@blogger.com