I'm going on my first "date". I'm 25 and I'm going on my first real date.
One weird side-effect of growing up in such a sheltered lifestyle is that I find myself experiencing 'normal' things much later than my peers. It's exciting, no doubt, but I also feel like sort of a reject.
I'll respond to 'anonymous' later.
Good luck, Ruth! Can't wait to hear about it! Believe it or not, I've been married twice, but never really "dated" in the way most people do. First time was a weird courtship/dating hybrid (thank you, college) and when I moved out of the house from that marriage, I moved in with hubby #2. Yeah, I sound really classy, don't I??
ReplyDeleteGood luck!
ReplyDeleteI found your blog in a circuitous way though my life has been very different than yours...i wanted to thank you for sharing your experiences and helping to answer some questions for me about the QF philosophy/lifestyle. I will continue reading, but probably won't comment very often. I wish you the best of luck -- in dating and in all things -- and hope that your mom & the new baby will be OK. You will all be in my thoughts.
Enjoy yourself. Take some time to meet people and have a good time.
ReplyDeleteHave fun! You seem like such a smart nice woman that anyone would be lucky to date you.
ReplyDeleteDon't feel too bad, I had my first kiss and relationship at 19, only lasted a month, and then shortly after I turned 20 met the guy I would marry six years later. Have fun!
ReplyDeleteHave fun Ruth! That is the purpose of dating (and getting to know the other person)-not necessarily x rated activities that some would have you believe. I hope you have a great time.
ReplyDeletep.s. You're only a year older than me. I don't know why this is shocking to me.
I hope you have a wonderful time! :)
ReplyDeleteHave fun! Just remember to act like a lady and you'll be treated like one, to order more than just a salad (but nothing too sloppy), and ENJOY yourself. Just enjoy the moment and all the butterflies and goosebumps that come with it.
ReplyDeleteHave fun! And don't worry - ALL first dates - regardless of age are extremely awkward! Just be yourself - it's the best way to filter out the ones you won't be compatible with down the road :)
ReplyDeleteFirst dates are nerve-wracking no matter your age or, sadly, how many other "first dates" you've had! Enjoy yourself and I hope it goes well. And- this is something everyone should take to heart- if you say something awkward, or make a mistake, laugh it off! It'll put you at ease as well as the other person, and can even be a bonding experience.
ReplyDeleteHave fun! Be yourself :) Not sure exactly what Teresa means by "acting like a lady" due to your upbringing maybe you need the opposite advice to balance it out ;) Order what you want, split the bill if you want, and whatever you do, make some good memories!
ReplyDeleteHave a blast!!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! Have fun! And don't expect too much - you don't have to marry this one, remember. :-) Just enjoy yourself.
ReplyDeleteHi. I just wanted to let you know that I enjoy your blog very much and I want to encourage you to continue. I have been reading a lot of QF/fundamentalist blogs lately and I love to find ones by children that have left the lifestyle. I am so happy that you were able to get away and can think for yourself now and live your own life.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a nice, normal date. I didn't go on a real date until I was 21. I didn't come from a religious family, but my father was very strict and I wanted to please him, of course. So I understand where you are coming from.
I went on my first date on my 21st birthday, and it was very awkward! haha... Two years later I am still with him (we've since lived together) but as others have said, you don't have to commit yourself to this person, just enjoy the moment. Have a great time! There are lots of us out here who understand how frustrating it is to be 'catching up' on 'normal' life experiences. Our experiences are worth something, too, though, even though often we wish we didn't have them...
ReplyDeleteGood Luck and have fun!
ReplyDeleteSorry if I caused confusion with my act like a lady comment. I just meant that don't get so excited that you forget who you are and do things you normally wouldn't. I know that when I first started dating I was so excited to be out with a boy that I wasn't myself and ended up having more confusion because of that. That's all. No harm meant.
ReplyDeleteHope it went well!!! You seem like a sweet lass and I hope that all works out for you!
ReplyDeleteHope you had a wonderful date!
ReplyDeleteThe Girl in the Pink Dress
Don't worry, Ruth. I didn't really date until 25 or so, and my husband didn't start until 28. We got married when I was 26 and he was 31, which was just perfect for us. A companion worthy of you will come when you and he are ready to meet each other.
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