A reader said I should do a post about the Oscars. I'm not sure what my perspective would give anyone, but this is the first time I've watched them and I find that I don't really get all the to-do.
I find that my favorite part of the pie is sitting here with my dormmates, trying to guess who's going to win. However, I'm just not up-to-date enough to understand most of the significance of the wins and losses - not to mention not seeing most of the movies. It's still fun, I suppose. I have used the opportunity to get about a thousand movie recommendations from people in the dorm.
This brings up a memory I have. I remember when Pocahontas came out in the theater. We weren't allowed to see it, of course. In any case, somehow, I heard the song "Colors of the Wind" and really, really wanted to buy the CD. We went to Walmart and the CDs were in a case by the electronics. I took it. Yes. I shoplifted it. I managed to hide it and hold onto it for several years, but I didn't get to listen to it because I was never left alone long enough to do that. I guess, along the way, I forgot about it. I just remembered it today. Anyway, how did I get from the Oscars to this little memory? I saw George Clooney and thought he was Mel Gibson. Whoopsy. Mel Gibson was in Pocahontas and you get the picture. I don't know what happened to the CD. My parents probably have found it by now. If they haven't, I hope one of my sisters or brothers did...and I hope they enjoyed it. If this is the first anyone in my family has heard of it...I hope it drives my dad crazy looking for it for the next week or so.
Ohhhhhh. You know that Darth Daddy is just moments away from posting something ominous.
ReplyDeleteSomeone needs to start humming the Imperial Death March.
I think it's great that you are now able to indulge in little things like watching TV and listening to music. I hope that you get to listen to the CD now that you have more freedom.
"Colors of the Wind" is a great song. Sadly, it was the best part of that movie.
ReplyDeleteMost people haven't seen most of the movies nominated. I haven't. It's mostly just a common experience everyone can talk about. And the dresses. Oh, the dresses...*swoon*
He'll probably post something about my heinous sin of childhood shoplifting.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry too much about not knowing many of the Oscar nominees. I don't usually either. It's fun, as you found out, to watch with a bunch of people, but not alone. I didn't this evening, though I have an aunt that has a yearly Oscar party, complete with a competition to pic the winners. I'd go if I was in the same state as her.
ReplyDeletePocahontas was never my favorite Disney flick - it came out at the tail end of the Golden age of Disney. BTW, the Golden Age of Disney includes The Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, and The Lion King.
If you haven't seen those, you MUST!!! You and I are the same age, and those were the movies that dominate the childhoods of our generation. See The Lion King, in particular. It's incredible beautiful. And the music is just awesome.
After being forced to watch the Oscars with my grandmother, I have no desire to watch them. They are pretty boring. But I am glad that you got the opportunity to enjoy the show.
ReplyDeleteIt is sad all the tiny things that you missed out on doing. After having sat through a few princess type movies with my daughter, I can say that they are harmless. I even let my oldest daughter watch Sailor Moon when she was little. She used to love that show. LOL
Oh, and An American Tail and The Land Before Time. Both are tear jerkers, despite being cartoon movies (the first is about a little mouse that lost his family when he immigrated to American, and the second about a group of dinosaurs that have been separated from their parents and are trying to find them). These were both huge for children born in the 80s.
ReplyDeleteDo you think your dad can pray a hedge of thorns around Wal-Mart? That would be a hell of a security advantage.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure he'll post something about sin taking root in your heart years ago and how the devil took that CD.
We should have a contest to see who can post the most realistic Darth post for this subject.
I agree about the Little Mermaid. It's just a breathtaking movie. And the music is to die for.
Oh, and also, The Secret of NIMH. Really cool, about a mouse widow who must find medicine to save her ill son and move her home before the field she lives in is plowed and her family killed. Very dark, but beautifully done.
ReplyDeleteOK, that's going to be the last one. :-)
I totally agree with Lauren about the best Disney movies. Beauty and the Beast is my FAVORITE, and Little Mermaid and Aladdin and Lion King are all must-sees. Pocahontas was dumb.
ReplyDeleteI just thought because you did not grow up with movies/pop culture/celebrities you might provide an interesting take on award shows.
ReplyDeleteI concur with all that the Lion King is a must see.
Oh, George Clooney=DREAMY, Mel Gibson=NOT DREAMY, IMO. LOL.
Agreed with all the above choices for films to see. I love cell-animated films, and I wept (as a surly teenager!) when Disney stopped doing them in favor of cheaper CGI ditties.
ReplyDeleteHas anyone recommended you secular music yet? Some of my favorite college tunes were by Dave Matthews Band (a world-folk kind of rock group, very listenable and socially conscious), U2 (possibly THE most socially conscious pop group evar) and Erasure (the most upbeat pop group ever).
And of course, not approved by Gothard for the everpresent rock beat, plus vague reference to drug use in one or two DMB songs, the fact that Bono of U2 was raised Catholic, and the fact that the lead singer of Erasure is openly gay.
Yes, Dave Matthews Band! Definitely very listenable.
ReplyDeleteI also want to suggest Barenaked Ladies. Which isn't want it sounds. It's a group of guys, they do some very different type of rock. Good good stuff.
Oh, I love the Barenaked Ladies...my college roommate introduced me to them, and they literally became the soundtrack to my college years!
ReplyDeleteHa! Soundtrack to my college years, too! And my high school years!
ReplyDeleteRuth, I thought you might enjoy this Pocahontas "primer" : http://thatguywiththeglasses.com/videolinks/thedudette/nostalgia-chick/1880-pocahontas
ReplyDelete(actually, nostalgia chick and nostalgia critic have helped me--who actually did watch an ungodly [do pun intended...] amount of TV as a child--to catch up on some 80s/90s pop culture references that I've missed...plus they're funny.)
I definitely agree with the Disney animated suggestions. I would also suggest seeing a few of the better romantic comedies. I would be choosy about which ones because some of them are just too silly. But it may be a way for you to see that romance between "wordly" people is about more than sex and depravity. There is sex, it is true. But the lives of the protagonists are about so much more.
ReplyDeleteI will suggest "When Harry Met Sally".
I'm of a certain age, ahem, where I don't know most of the actors and haven't seen the movies. But George Clooney - whoa! talk about weak-at-the-knees! He is gorgeous.
ReplyDeleteJean
Do not presume to know that which I or your mother would do ever! This bating is inconsequential to us. Consequential it is to the Lord for it is in conflict with his command to honor thy father and mother. How can you expect us to forgive you when you show how you disregard our feelings with this post? You carried this sin of shoplifting for all this time, my daughter. You chose not to confess to your Creator and Savior this sin however small and now it weighs heavy on your heart. You'll find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature who stepped into the darkness to find worldly pleasures in conflict with His palns for you. Your brothers followed the Lords plan for marriage and family. His Purpose for them is fulfilled. You are unfulfilled as you deny His will for you and choose your own while you mock those who honor God by doing his will. Have you no shame? You say you think you are following what you think is God's plan, then you say you aren't sure what God is any longer despite the guidance and mercy you've been shown in your youth. You are lost, my daughter. It greeves me muchly. I see now that God meant for you to be the example for the others. The exmaple of what pride, greed, avarice, lust, and envy will do to a once holy daughter of God.
ReplyDeleteRuth's Dad: for a post that starts with a lecture on presumption, yours is awfully presumptuous.
ReplyDeleteRuth: I've lived in The World for twentysomething years, and it seems that our opinions on the Oscars are pretty much the same. :D Significance varies, I guess. As usual, marketability doesn't always mean quality.
Since we're on animation, if I had to recommend just one to you it would be anything from The Simpsons *within* its first nine or ten seasons. Not only was it a brilliant satire on the stereotypical all-American nuclear family, there was so much truth and emotional impact that you won't believe it was written for a bunch of yellow freaks with giant overbites.
My favourite Disney animation is The Hunchback of Notre Dame. It gets quite a bit of flak, particularly because of its departure from the book, but I like its willingness to deal with things that are a bit more difficult than standard Disney issues. When I first saw the animation I was amazed at the individually-moving crowd scenes and a relative lack of cutesyness, and the heroine is not a princess and all the better for it.
The Nostalgia Chick (Kat's link) is a great guide to those 80s/90s productions marketed to girls. If you have time, check out the My Little Pony review just for the hilarity.
And there's Daddy Darth.
ReplyDeleteRuth, if you read the bible, then you know that god forgives those who ask for forgiveness. Taking a CD is not a mortal sin. It's not like abusing your children.
If you really want to, you can contact WalMart and tell them that you'd like to right a wrong and where could you send a donation for 15.00. Or just donate it to charity.
You aren't immoral, lost or unfilled. The best way to honor god is to find the correct path for you and use the gifts he gave you.
**hugs**
"Anonymous said...
ReplyDeleteDo not presume to know that which I or your mother would do ever! This bating is inconsequential to us. Consequential it is to the Lord for it is in conflict with his command to honor thy father and mother. How can you expect us to forgive you when you show how you disregard our feelings with this post? You carried this sin of shoplifting for all this time, my daughter. You chose not to confess to your Creator and Savior this sin however small and now it weighs heavy on your heart. You'll find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature who stepped into the darkness to find worldly pleasures in conflict with His palns for you. Your brothers followed the Lords plan for marriage and family. His Purpose for them is fulfilled. You are unfulfilled as you deny His will for you and choose your own while you mock those who honor God by doing his will. Have you no shame? You say you think you are following what you think is God's plan, then you say you aren't sure what God is any longer despite the guidance and mercy you've been shown in your youth. You are lost, my daughter. It greeves me muchly. I see now that God meant for you to be the example for the others. The exmaple of what pride, greed, avarice, lust, and envy will do to a once holy daughter of God."
What of the command to not provoke your Children? Perhaps by your lack of parenting you DROVE your child to it! And can you say in good conscience that you are truly a father and mother or just tyrannical puppets in sub-culture of religion-gone-bad?
Most people who claim to be parents will realize that in order not to crush the spirit of a child, you would have a conversation about their wants (like music). That conversation would not be one sided (I'm not sure that you are capable in your tyrannical lifestyle). The answer may still be no, but at least you have a healthy relationship where you value OTHERS.
O well, I guess this will fall on deaf (tyrannical, self-serving) ears!!
BTW - I also stole as an ATI and tried making "restitution" which was refused. Perhaps, dear "FATHER" you should take the beam out of your own eye of PROVOKING your children before pointing the finger at the effect that YOU caused!!
As to "God's plans" - NO - they are YOUR plans that have been messed up - again selfish!!
X-ATI pilot daughter
Mulan! My daughter LOVED that flick and learned to play the soundtrack on guitar.
ReplyDelete"Look at me
I will never pass for a perfect bride
Or a perfect daughter
Can it be
I'm not meant to play this part?
Now I see
That if I were truly to be myself
I would break my fam'ly's heart
Who is that girl I see
Staring straight
Back at me?
Why is my reflection someone
I don't know?
Somehow I cannot hide
Who I am
Though I've tried
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?"
LOL My little girl is all growed up and saving (us from) China! -paraphrase of a comment by MuShu played by Eddie Murphy- FUN STUFF!
Ruth,
ReplyDeleteI remember when I left my abusive marriage, my estranged husband would use this really BIG VOICE to try to intimidate me back into submission. It had worked for him so many times in the past, just making edicts and prediction about what would happen if I did not return. We are fairly secular, but he used religion as well. His writing (and speaking) had the same sort of authoritarian booming voice.
The voice is very intimidating. Remove the tone, and the words actually seem kind of silly.
Since this the thread about the Oscars, it occurs to me that you should see "The Wizard of OZ". There is an important part of the story that shows the power of a really BIG VOICE. Lots of spiritual leaders use this sort of voice to keep the flock under control.
Your purpose on earth is not fulfilled only by procreating. It is certainly a part of it. Creating art, music, literature, contributing to the advancement of humanity, doing good works....these are also part of your plan. Someone invented the microchip that your father uses on a computer to contact you. Someone figured out how to put satellites in orbit so that people all over the world can talk to each other. Some of the people who made contributions to humanity are women. They may have also been married and had children.
You are a very moral woman. You have called your father out on his abuse and have struck fear in him. You are very brave. Other people may be inspired by your journey to speak out against the people who keep them in bondage with ropes of fear.
Keep going Ruth, soon you will be free from the effects of the voice.
Heh heh heh. I find the baiting highly amusing.
ReplyDeleteYOU ARE SLACKING ON THE CAPS THERE, DARTH DADDY!
I KINDA MISS 'EM.
-Jenny a.k.a JENNY
Aww, there he is! There's our Big, Bad Vox Dei! And misspelling simple words like "baiting" and "grieves", just like a good member of the SOTKT. I knew he wouldn't let us down. ;)
ReplyDeleteanyone want to start a "Ruth's Dad" bingo game? We'll use the words he uses the most: "forgiveness" and "sin" and "confess" and so forth. And the bingo prize can be their very own hedge of thorns, good for one use against an enemy, courtesy of the Big Guy himself.
--tatortotcassie
Hook, line and sinker!!
ReplyDeleteI bet he is tearing the house apart right now looking for the CD.
Children occasionally shoplift. I did. I know others who did. When you grow up in a tyrannical abusive environment sometimes you act out a bit more than the average kid. Part of it is about self soothing and part of it is a cry for help. Amends can be made and this is certainly a forgivable offense.
Not like abusing your own children.
Ahem!!
The Oscars are weird and fun. I love the fashions. I love to see who is drunk. Most people don't see all the movies. It's just something fun and social to do and talk about.
"Someone invented the microchip that your father uses on a computer to contact you. Someone figured out how to put satellites in orbit so that people all over the world can talk to each other. Some of the people who made contributions to humanity are women. They may have also been married and had children."
Brilliant point!
Hang in there Ruth, you're doing amazing!
p.s. got any Harris updates for us?
I remember when I was a kid of about 10 stealing a small Easter egg. It tasted soooo good. I also remember going back the next day and stealing another. I took one bite and the guilt got me. I threw the rest of it away.
ReplyDeleteIt happens sometimes, Ruth's father, it happens. Somehow, though, I don't think God is going to send me to the everlasting fire. I think God understood - we were poor and I loved chocolate AND I never did it again.
It seems to me, at least, that God forgives more readily than you do. Surely you do not place yourself above God? That, sir, is a sin!
Jean
Am I the only one who cringed over the word "muchly"?
ReplyDeleteIm in, tater, if by 'bingo' you mean we all take a shot of our favorite adult beverage whenever Darth Daddy utters our favorite Fundie-ese phrases.
ReplyDeleteDouble shots for modesty references.
Furthermore, Id like my 'hedge of thorns' changed to a 'hedge of Blue Moons' if we are taking suggestions for that sort of thing.
KThanxBai
-Jenny
When I was 10 I got a book at Walmart. My mom told me I could get one, but she didn't see me pick it up and I had it in my hand when I went through the line. I was talking to my sister and forgot to put it on the scanner. When we got home, my mom saw it and freaked out. She drove me back to the store and had me explain to the manager what happened. Then she lectured me about how stealing denies the store the ability to pay its workers and how bad it was to take things. The manager felt so bad for me that she was nearly in tears.
ReplyDeleteIt worked. Even though I had no intentions of taking it, I learned a lesson. When I go to the grocery, I double check my cart to make sure that everything is out and accounted for.
All kids do this at some point. It's a part of growing up. I don't think any of us are going to hell over it. If so, then Congress needs to be VERY VERY scared because what they steal could save a third world country.
The idea of Ruth's dad tearing through the house last night is funny. She should have said that she buried it in the back yard, so he'd get a shovel and waste all day digging holes.
I'd second wanting a Harris update. I hope that things are going slowly and you are getting to know each other.
"Consequential it is to the Lord..."
ReplyDelete"It greeves me muchly."
While he's obviously very Darth-ish, it seems he channels Yoda's style of speaking now and then, no?
--Shannon
Delurking to LOL @ your walmart theft. Re: "hedge of protection" which I think you called a "hedge of thorns", take a look at this video... it's by a christian comedian. It's HILARIOUS! And I really hope you don't find it sacriligious(sp?) or are offended. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Le33lZaMOI
ReplyDeleteMy husband in his Amway phase thought by yelling verses from the Bible at us at the top of his lungs would change my opinion. Wrong. It was the mouse that roared.
ReplyDeleteDarth Dad, lighten up. Christ Jesus died for our sins, past and present. HE is the alpha and omega, and in him is love. And what ever you are spewing (in your king james jammies) is not the love of Christ Jesus.
May the force be with you Darth.
Ruth, rock on!
And PS I know all the songs to the Lion King, Alladin, The Little Mermaid. My kids loved the Disney movies. My daughter now works for Disney and I have a great collection of Disney Tee Shirts.
As a pop culture nerd, here are some films I recommend for you:
ReplyDelete1. Mulan--she's the strongest female Disney character ever!
2. Persepolis--this is an animated film from France, but definitely for adults. It's about a girl who lived in Iran after the Islamic Revolution. She can't live in such a repressive society, but when she escapes to Europe she has a hard time dealing with unlimited freedom.
3. The Secrets--this one is from Israel. Two girls who are from very strict (and not very nice to women) Jewish sects study at a religious school for women. A mysterious French woman asks them to help her find her peace with G-d before she dies, so the girls study Jewish texts to see what she can do. There's some nudity and sexual situations, but it's a very interesting look at religious women.
Oh god, now I hear yoda saying "pray or pray not, there is no try".
ReplyDeletePersepolis is awesome! And very critically acclaimed, as well.
Next time my boss yells at me, I'm going to tell him that I've prayed a hedge of protection around me. That ought to freak him out for a week or two.
Gothard/Darth daddy logic:
ReplyDeleteSmall kid shoplifting a cd: baaaaaad!
Adult locking same kid in a dark closet for hours: godly!
I rest my case.
Wow. That was one amazing response from your father.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if he has realized that he had been an accomplice to theft all these years? It must make him insane to know that you managed to keep this from him for YEARS!
Ruth, God forgives when one asks forgiveness.
Keep your chin up. I love your posts!
"despite the guidance and mercy you've been shown in your youth"
ReplyDeleteSir, with respect (lol) locking a child in a closet for 14 hours is not guidance and mercy. Respect may be earned, probably not demanded, from your children. It must suck to realize after all these years you've failed as a father.
While stealing is actual considered a mortal sin by the Catholic church, there is certainly forgiveness available. It doesn't have to darken your entire life, how sad to think that it would (daddy, I'm talking to you here.) All Christians are sinners, including the men, who seem to think that they are on level with God and are without sin. Pride is a sin and Father seems to have plenty of that, perhaps you should repent yourself. And it is extremely presumptuous to state that YOU alone know God's will for Ruth. Ruth can pray to God herself to determine his will for her life. Oh, and Father, if that was indeed your response, please use spell check, it undermines your credibility to spell like a 4'th grader.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous at 5:40,
ReplyDelete1 Peter 4:8
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Ruth,
And what do we do about Rahab the prostitute? That bad girl made it into the hall of faith.
Annie
If that was Darth Daddy (the tone seems "off" to me, but considering the individual himself appears to be "off" too, well...) he seriously requires some remedial education in grammar and spelling. I am far from perfect myself, but then again I'm not hopping onto someone else's blog lecturing the blog author about sins committed over a decade in the past.
ReplyDeleteRuth, you're amazing. And I'll add my voice to those recommending Beauty and the Beast. It's my absolute favorite :)
So assuming Ruth is a real person (nothing personal, I just take everything I read on the internet with a grain of salt) is her dad for real? I mean he seems so, well, stupid, that I can't believe he is actually a grown man and not someone trying to sound like what they think an authoritative "godly" man would sound like. Honestly his posts make me laugh, they are just so ridiculous and illogical. Seriously, if it's bad to go against your parents wishes than what about when he was getting his wife knocked up every year against her parents wishes? I suppose, however, that it doesn't matter what your parents want if they aren't a member of the cult.
ReplyDeleteI suppose it doesn't matter what I think either, I'm just a Roman Catholic, doomed to hell because I follow the teachings of the church founded by Christ himself....
I think following Daddy Darth's logic, we're ALL going to hell. Unless of course, Daddy Darth judges otherwise.
ReplyDeleteI find it interesting when people take religion to such an extreme that they totally negate the core tenants of the faith. If Jesus pops up on earth, he's going to be horrified to see what these people say in his name.
I wouldn't be writing that ticket to heaven just yet, DD.
Hmm. I'm a giant nerd, so this list is from a fannish perspective.
ReplyDelete*Monty Python and the Holy Grail. If you hang out with nerds and geeks, you'll get this all the time.
*Monty Python's the Life of Brian. Sacriligeous, funny, and extensively quoted as well.
*Monty Python's Flying Circus, esp. the Dead Parrot Sketch.
*Peter Jackson's Lord of the Rings movies will clue you in to a cultural behemoth. The BBC radio play (not the American radio play, which manages to make the story cutesy!) is closer to the book in some ways and brilliantly acted. The books, ah yes the books--start with The Hobbit.
Okay, nerd cred established, here are some really really good movies about love, honor, courage, and cool costumes and/or worldbuilding:
*The Princess Bride.
*The BBC Chronicles of Narnia. Better storytelling than the more recent movies IMO. But also, the books.
*Babylon 5, the 5-year series. Get through Netflix.
*Hayao Miyazaki's wonderful movies! Kiki's Delivery Service, Castle in the Sky, My Neighbor Totoro, Nausicaa and the Valley of the Wind, Porco Rosso, Whispers of the Heart, The Cat Returns--some of the best animated movies ever done.
*The Iron Giant.
*Deep Impact. What would you do if you knew the world was going to end? No, what would real people really do?
*Bolt.
*WALL-E.
*Finding Nemo.
*Fantasia and Fantasia 2000, less about storytelling than really cool animation and music.
*March of the Penguins.
Jenny Islander
Dear Ruth's Dad:
ReplyDeleteHi! Welcome to the internet! I don't want to embarrass you, but I don't think "guidance" and "mercy" mean what you think they do.
Also, you fail at being human.
I suppose we should Star Wars to your must see list, Ruth, if we are to continue to refer to your father as Darth Daddy.
ReplyDeleteRuth's father, you have big words, but where's your heart? If your heart was as big as your ego, NONE of your kids would have defected from your household. YOU are the one responsible for the events in your house, not your children. You are simply reaping what you have sowed. I can't even imagine what it's like living in your house.
ReplyDeleteI took some time this past week-end to read the very beginning of Ruth's blog (when she started it last summer, 2009) and honestly, I was almost in tears reading it (and I'm a 47 year-old woman with a large family with kids ranging from age 26 to age 8, I thought I had seen it all...apparently not).
I can see why Ruth ran from you on so many counts. Finding her an abuser as a possible mate, making your wife pregnant in her 50's (give me a break, her body has been worn down being pregnant and giving birth to 10 children before this last pregnancy), basically sucking the soul and spirit out of your wife as you forced her to become subservient to YOUR will (sickening), having some other woman live in your house for a year all the while brow-beating your wife to death (this, I have NO sympathy for. As God as my witness, I would have kicked her sorry a*s out of my house come hell or high water. "I" am the queen of my household, not some so-called "Christian" fundamentalist b*tch - sorry for my language), beating your children by following the "disciplinary methods" of a madman (Michael Pearl), and the list goes on and on.
So, Ruth stole a CD as a child. She did not know better. I'm sure that she's forgiven as there is no doubt that she's asked for forgiveness. You, on the other hand, probably think that you have done NOTHING wrong, because in your own mind, you are God. You are the god of your family and you expect to be worshipped and followed as a god yourself.
Frankly, sir, you disturb me. I thank heaven above that Ruth was able to escape your dangerous clutches. You were ready to make her a junior version of your wife. From what I understand, your wife loved you enough to let that happen, but Ruth did NOT choose to become a conservative fundamentalist Stepford woman or wife. I presume that you chose your path yourself.
You do not have ownership of people, no matter what you think. I know that you could care less of what others think because in your mind you have all the answers, but at least I got this off my chest.
Ruth, we believe in you and support you 100%. Even though you don't know some of us, I can guarantee you that you speak for many of us and many people that we've known and loved who have had their life ruined by such legalistic and fundamentalist cults that call themselves "religions."
Carry on, Ruth and don't look back. Through time, you will be over this. God and all his angels are with you always and will give you strength to get through this. I am sure that you have guardian angels watching over you, protecting you, and guiding you. Take care of yourself and know that we all care about you as we would our own daughter, sister, or another woman that we love and treasure.
((Hugs))
Donna
Here's my list of recommendations of Disney movies.
ReplyDelete1.) Lady & the Tramp
2.) Snow White
3.) Sleeping Beauty
4.) Alice in Wonderland
5.) 101 Dalmations
6.) The Lion King
I'm 31 & I admit I still LOVE watching Disney movies. The above ones I mentioned are animated. Here are a couple of non-animated Disney movies that I love
The Parent Trap (Hayley Mills version made back in the early 60's. Not the crappy remake with a young Lindsay Lohan)
Pollyanna (another Hayley Mills movie but still a good one)
That Darn Cat (also Hayley Mills).
Those were made in the '60's but I watched them with my mom growing up & to this day I still love them.
If we're recommending movies, I haven't much for you as far as animated films, as it's all been said already. But, you need to watch "Grease," "Thelma & Louise," and the first and third Jurassic Park movies (the second one sucks--skip it).
ReplyDeleteIf you're not too easily grossed out, I also recommend the horror spoof "Army of Darkness." It's hilarious!
I'm totally on board with Cynthia. After reading Daddy Darth's "comment," I hear Yoda's voice. And in a way, I see a bit of Episode II & III Anakin Skywalker in him, the way he keeps whining about how things are not going his way, blah blah blah. And yes Cynthia, with Daddy Darth's "logic," we are all on the fast track to hell. My friends and I are thinking about a timeshare there. Care to join? =)
ReplyDeleteI, too, was disturbed that he writes like he attended the SOTDRT. That being said, his tone did seem a bit off. That may or may not be from him.
As far as the Oscars and Disney movies go, I concur with the list on here. The animated movies listed are all great. My personal favorite is Sleeping Beauty. And if you ever get a chance, you must see the ballet as well. Absolutely breathtaking.
In keeping with the spirit of the Oscars, I will take a trip to the past and recommend some amazing classics, many of which are Oscar nominees and winners: Casablanca, The Philadelphia Story, Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, The Quiet Man, How Green Was My Valley, Meet Me in St. Louis, My Fair Lady, anything directed by Alfred Hitchcock (brilliant horror/thriller films, with no gore) particularly Rear Window, Sabrina (the original with Audrey Hepburn), Little Women with Katherine Hepburn, Miracle on 34th Street (again, the 1947 original with Maureen O'Hara. This is also a Christmas movie, but every good), Singing in the Rain....I could go on and on.
Ruth, I truly hope you get a chance to see some of these classics. They were made back during the golden age of Hollywood, and are true masterpieces. *hugs* And kudos to you for the awesome jab at Daddy Darth. I luv it!
I don't think the shoplifting should eat at you at all. Most kids, at one point or another, have lifted something. I myself took makeup at the age of 14 or so. It's not a moral sin, and you will not be banned to hell for it. *hugs* Keep staying strong.
"You'll find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature who stepped into the darkness to find worldly pleasures in conflict with His palns for you"
ReplyDeleteSir, you sure hold the blood of Jesus in pretty low esteem to make such a statement. I have a feeling you don't know Him. I knew a Gothardite that practically had the bible memorized but it never changed his heart one iota. Tell you what-why don't you take the beam out of your eye-as the Scripture commands-and let the Holy Spirit teach you the truths found in I Corinthians chapter 13...such as "If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don't have love, I have become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal. ..." I truly feel sorry for you. You have let a spirit of religion overtake you-a very poor substitute for being filled with the Holy Spirit of God. For those that claim Christ must walk as He did. And I, as a bornagain spiritfilled child of the most High have to tell you sir, that your actions blaspheme much more than Ruth's childhood shoplifting ever did. God loves Ruth, sent His son to die for her, sees her as the beautiful one that she is-for He makes her so-and meanwhile you seek to shame and manipulate while honoring no one except the enemy of your soul. I call on you to stop it. Because YOUR soul is in danger. I am being deadly serious.
If Ruth did not respect you and honor you-truly-she'd have already told us all who you were. She has shown much more love than you seem capable of, truly.
Sir, I would tremble were I you, knowing God is just. Are you able to even consider that, or have your eyes been so blinded you cannot even see that???
-Connie
This just in: RUTHS FAMILY NOT THE ONLY WHACKADOOS TO USE CAPS LOCK TO COMMUNICATE.
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Just thought you all would want to know.
ps-read the comments.
"Do not presume to know that which I or your mother would do ever! This bating is inconsequential to us. Consequential it is to the Lord for it is in conflict with his command to honor thy father and mother. How can you expect us to forgive you when you show how you disregard our feelings with this post? You carried this sin of shoplifting for all this time, my daughter. You chose not to confess to your Creator and Savior this sin however small and now it weighs heavy on your heart. You' find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature who stepped into the darkness to find worldly pleasures in conflict with His palns for you. Your brothers followed the Lords plan for marriage and family. His Purpose for them is fulfilled. You are unfulfilled as you deny His will for you and choose your own while you mock those who honor God by doing his will. Have you no shame? You say you think you are following what you think is God's plan, then you say you aren't sure what God is any longer despite the guidance and mercy you've been shown in your youth. You are lost, my daughter. It greeves me muchly. I see now that God meant for you to be the example for the others. The exmaple of what pride, greed, avarice, lust, and envy will do to a once holy daughter of God."
ReplyDeleteThe first sentence doesn't even flow correctly.
bating shoud be "baiting"
"Consequential it is" should be "It is consequential..."
"his" should be "His" when referring to God
"You chose not to confess to your Creator and Savior this sin however small" First of all, you do not know if she has confessed it or not. Secondly, if you weren't so strict with music, she may have felt she could have asked you to buy it for her.
"You' find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature."
These are both judgmental statements. You don't know if God will grant her forgiveness or not, that is up to Him. It is also judgmental to call her a "godless creature." It certainly does jive with Eph. 4:32 (Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you).
"t greeves me muchly. "
That should read, "I am deeply grieved."
"The exmaple of what pride, greed, avarice, lust, and envy will do to a once holy daughter of God."
Again, judgmental..and I have never sensed "envy" in Ruth.
I meant to say "does not jive." I need to start editing before I hit the post button.
ReplyDeleteFor that last post my password was "sinavit." Almost like sin of it. Ha ha...I've had quite a few that would go with this blog...I forget them now, I should have posted them...but one almost could have translated "poor ruth," and stuff like that.
ReplyDeleteWow. First time poster. Long time lurker. I just HAD to comment on your dad's post. "Greeves me muchly" lmao. I hope he had nothing to do with your homsechooling.
ReplyDeleteYou know, if DAD and crew does not want to read your comments and such....than perhaps they should not read it.
ReplyDeleteRuth, you may have stole a CD from a store, but your father has stolen so much more from your mother and all your siblings.
I'm praying for you Ruth! Oh...if you do watch the Star Wars movies, start with episodes 4-6 first. Otherwise by the time you get to the later ones that were actually made first, the effects are going to be crazy cheesy.
Ruth, I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I was just wondering if before your dad became a "christian" or BG follwer, was he a drug user? The reason I ask because many ex drug users I've known, have become hyper legalistic after conversion, AND they often have permanent damage which can affect their abilities in grammar, math and other subjects.
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ReplyDeleteOk, follwer should be follower, "The reason I ask because," should be, "The reason I ask is because," and there should be know comma after "known,"
ReplyDeleteThis time my password was "barworis." Like "bar worries," ha ha I think that is funny!
ReplyDeleteHad to re-comment... I just read your Dad's post.
ReplyDeleteRuth, I hope you find the love, mercy and GRACE that God gives us. I hear so much condemnation and SHAME in your father's words... I hope you realize that Jesus wasn't like that. In fact, He told Mary of Magdalene "Your sins are FORGIVEN... go and sin no more". Jesus said things like "Whoever is without sin may cast the first stone" and "Whatsoever you've done to the least of these you've done to Me".
Your dad has ovbiously never read those words nor does he worship the same loving, gentle, KIND Jesus that I do. If he did, his post wouldn't have been written.
When I was 4 or 5 I stole gum from the supermarket.....I really wanted it and my mom found out that night when she found it.
ReplyDeleteGot in trouble, got the no-stealing lecture, and for some reason I still have part of that gum tucked away in my childhood jewelery box...
My brother once ate some stuff in a super market, my dad gave him a quarter and told him to go to the manager, give him the quarter and apologize for stealing food.
Neither of us have done that since....I think it's a lesson we all learn.
That aside, I'm glad you got to enjoy your first Oscars. It's a shame they didn't do the best song performances this year, it's one of my favorite parts.
I'm curious, were you able to watch the Olympics growing up?
As for music, what about Queen? Even better? Watch some of the concerts. I have Live at Wembly Stadium. Freddie Mercury was a great showman and the performances are all about the music and experience, not like the pop performances are today, which are all about "ooh, pretty! explosions! sparkly!"
ReplyDeleteYou must see/hear Queen. They are the bomb, yo. :)
OMgoodness that link to the book was absolutely sick! (as in hilarious!) rofl!!!!
ReplyDeleteBeauty and the Beast by Disney, Ruth. That film is amazing, it appeals to the book-lover in all of us.
Speaking of Beauty and the Beast...if you ever have the chance to see it on stage...DO IT! Disney spares no expense and the show is fantastic.
ReplyDelete"You' find no forgiveness for you are a godless creature."
ReplyDeleteThese are both judgmental statements. You don't know if God will grant her forgiveness or not, that is up to Him. It is also judgmental to call her a "godless creature."
It's also deliciously nonsensical.
Try to understand that to an actual unbeliever, being called 'godless' is like being called 'elfless'. To an atheist everyone is godless because there just aren't any gods to be had- it's just that not everyone has come to grips with it yet.
To a believer one would think it would be equally absurd. If God exists and is omnipresent then nobody can be said to be without Him. You could be 'ungodly' but hardly 'godless'.
Ruth,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that your fathers view of Christ is so off. It seems like so many put their own ideas in where it should be what the Bible says. It's such a personality thing. Even Paul wrote to the church and told them to straighten up, I wonder what he would do now days. I have seen ladies who say they are pagan christian even. That makes no sense. How can a person make up their own religion?
If your god doesnt do this or that or is all love than you have broken the first commandment. Thou shalt have no other god's befor me. Or if like your dad god never forgives and only perfect can get to heaven. we are all doomed, for all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.
I pray that God shows His face to you and you can have a relationship with Him like He desires for you.
Here's how loving parents deal with shoplifting, or at least I like to think of myself as loving- LOL!
ReplyDeleteFind teen son shoplifting, make him dump everything out of his pockets at the store. Leave immediately. Go home. Freak out! (A better person would leave that part out but I am who I am.) Point out that you could get arrested! Ruin your chances of med school! Be totally embarrassed and feel like a loser if your friends/neighbors/relatives employer found out! Then take deep breaths, hug your teen and say, "I love you so much. I don't want to see you get hurt. I would've given you the $$ if you needed it."
Next, find out what's really eating at your teen (if possible). Fix it. If it can't be fixed, just talking about it helps. Like if your mom had ever admitted what a control freak your dad was and prayed with you to be healed from his abuses. Even if she wasn't ready to leave herself, just talking helps a lot sometimes.
Finally, good home school mom that I am, I found a free course online on shoplifting prevention. Teen is grounded from stores until the course is finished. Mom and Dad both make more effort to love teen and build him up. Teen finishes course. All is forgotten.
Oh yeah, somewhere in there (many times) we all prayed together, each of together in humility admitting our own faults and praying for one another. But we do that anyway.
The huge difference between my family and Ruth's is that these parents walk in real humility. We know we are as screwed up as the next person, and don't put on airs that we are perfect in any way. Plus I am pretty sure we have way more fun than Ruth's parents. LOL
Ruth, hugs and love to you! I hope you find a life of freedom, joy, support, friendship, laughter and accomplishment! You deserve it, precious one.
Ruth, if it were logistically possible, I would think your father and mine were really the same man living a double life as a Gothardite and a hedonistic unbeliever. (Although my father calls himself a Christian, I think what he really means is 'normal American' as Christ is pretty irrelevant to his life).
ReplyDeleteSomeone asked if someone as unhinged as the anonymous poster could really be Ruth's dad. Absolutely. I've seen this kind of brain damage in my own father, and as much as it looks like a parody, he's probably totally in earnest.
Religion is not this guy's problem - it's his crutch, his excuse. I say this because my father is his exact duplicate without the religion. The common denominator is an abusive, narcissistic personality. It's amazing how when you've heard one of them speak, you recognize the rest of them immediately.
Agreed! I think NPDs are attracted to fundamentalist religion because it gives them even more *unique* status as Gawd's annointed, and they get to play god over their families with the church's approval. Look good and dominate at all the same time!
ReplyDeleteBut the religion is extra: NPD is the problem.
If he is really Ruth's Dad, I feel so sorry for him when he has to face the wrath of God for thinking he knows God so well he can speak for God.
ReplyDeleteHas Ruth said that this was her dad? All of Ruth's posts sound intelligent and well written so I find it difficult to believe that her father's writing level would be this drastically different then hers.
ReplyDeleteWhen The popular comment layout is common, so it is easily recognized scanning to post a comment. If the comment section is in a different format, then I am going to spend more time trying to decipher what everything means.
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Hmm...good movies, good movies.
ReplyDeleteStardust is great. Awesome, funny, romantic...and probably in the 75% bin at Target (Yay!). A Room With a View is also a MUST! It contains one of the best kisses in film, period.
And, I bet your college has a collection of classics in the library. From there you should totallly borrow Casablanca, Christmas in Connecticut, Bringing Up Baby, and Some Like It Hot (to name but a few!!). I highly recommend them all, and...with the exception of Casablanca...they're all light, happy fare (but Casablanca is still amazing, so watch it anyway!).
-Edith
PS: Another reason to watch Casablanca is that it has a ridiculous amount of commonly quoted lines, "We'll always have Paris," "Play it again, Sam," "This looks like the beginning of the beautiful friendship," and "Of all the gin joins in all the world she walks into mine." To name but a few. Definitely required watching to get many pop culture references.
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ReplyDelete" ... to a once holy daughter of God."
ReplyDeleteHoly. Hmmm. Interesting choice of words. And what made her 'holy'? And, according to you, what makes her 'unholy' or 'less holy' now?
If you think the external trappings of a rigid lifestyle, proscribed gender roles, being reserved and subdued and having her spirit broken so that she us utterly subordinate to you and other patriarchal bullies is 'holy', if you think long skirts, long hair, homeshooling and homebirthing makes her more holy than someone who doesn't, then you are dumping extreme legalism on your daughter, and blocking her way to experience true grace and true faith in the finished work of the cross. There is nothing, nothing, nothing but the shed blodd of Jesus, his finished work of undeserved mercy and grace that ever made Ruth (or I, or you) holy and nothing but the blood ever will. What you imply is a toxic, Pharisaical counterfeit.
Don't you even yearn to surrender at the cross, as an undeserving sinner who has been led astray by a toxic, dysfunctional religious counterfeit, and just let the precious blood of Jesus wash over you, and let His love drive away all your fears, even though you know you don't deserve it, never will and never can?
If you did, the mercy and grace and love you'd receive would flood your heart and overflow to your precious daughter.
This is my prayer for you. I have seen Pharisees and bullies like you and I have seen the appalling damage that evil and erroneous doctrine has done.
But the cross of Jesus, his amazing grace, the way this utter miracle defeats the dynamics of legalism and provides for equality, justice, healing .... that has more power.
Darth Vater, how i wish you would pray this prayer for your daughter:
ReplyDelete"Good women, as one who represents the male population to you, i confess our sin as a gender against you. We have not honoured you in many ways. We have hated the good of the feminine and prefered the good of the masculine. We have devalued you and believed the lie that to be a man is better and that the feminine is less than the masculine. Forgive our deception, O God. We accept the truth that as women, your daughters also bear your image, and that you esteem feminine ways of being and knowing as highly as You esteem the masculine. Women, we confess our tendency to downplay your significance and to exert our own power in ways that are unjust to you. We confess devaluing your through sexual sin and assault, through viewing you as an object or chattel, through projecting blame for our own weakness onto you, through doubting you and suspecting you when in truth we simply didn't understand you. We beseech your forgiveness also for the ways we have suppressed the good of the feminine in you and exerted authority and power over you in a way that subdued your personal power, autonomy and unique personhood. Forgive us for the way we have veiled the beauty of your womanhood in you. As God continues to reveal our misogyny and command our repentance, we ask that the grace we seek in our sin would be grace that you might extend to us as well."
The men of our church prayed this for the women, then gave specific examples of acts of misogny against women. Then the women prayed a prayer for the men as well. it is the only time in my life i ever saw misogny identified as a SIN in the church. It was incredibly healing and liberating. For both genders, for everyone.
Darth Daddy does not even know how to spell grieve....he spelled it greeves....hello.
ReplyDeleteJust getting into your blog, so not sure if you'll see this comment, but I had to say... I get you on this!
ReplyDeleteI didn't grow up anything like QF, but I did grow up in a conservative Christian family with no TV. We rented a TV every four years to watch the Olympics and were allowed a few "good" movies at those times. Some children's movies and shows, such as Pocahontas, were scorned by my mother as "spiritualistic" and therefore not suitable for our viewing, but somehow we managed to watch The Little Mermaid. Also, when I was quite young, my mother decided that the celebrations associated with Easter and Halloween were pagan, and so all Easter-egg hunts, trick-or-treating and costume parties were banned.
Anyway, I totally understand being out-of-touch with popular culture. It wasn't until college that I started knowing who actors and actresses were and catching up on movies and TV shows everyone else had seen 1,000 times. Now, I can actually handle small talk about the Oscars! It's really not all as important as I thought it was as a child/teenager... but it sure feels nice not to feel like a total weirdo! (And I do still love Sound of Music.)
Some of my favorite movies:
Lord of the Rings (But read the books, including The Hobbit, first!)
Gone With the Wind (Definitely a product of its time in views of black people and women, but Scarlett is in her own way a feminist!)
Shawshank Redemption
Mulan
The Game (starring Michael Douglas)
Out of Africa
Schindler's List
One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
Gattaca
Geisha
The Way Home
I'm beginning to see a theme here :) Most of these movies feature strong female characters and/or characters who gain freedom against overwhelming odds. I think you'll like them.
Edit... that last movie is actually titled "The Way Back."
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